Get fit, Get Confident,

      Trying to look nice is one thing but trying to look sexy and conservative is another. After being with your significant other happily for some time, it can really put pounds on you. When you start gaining weight you start looking unattractive and feeling insecure. It causes you to be jealous of other women around you and jealous when your guy pays a different kind of attention to another woman. Your confidence level turns to almost nothing and you begin to feel miserable, moody and depressed. STOP! Get your act together! Get Fit, and Get Confident.

                                        First things first get on a diet.
     Watch your calories, most women can handle a 2000 calories a day diet. Eat more vegetables and less carbohydrates like pasta, rice, potato, and bread. Get off the fast food, anything that is fried will build fat quick and give you bad acne. Don't drink soda unless its diet but not recommended. Eat salads and avoid the dressing it really adds a lot of calories. Drink lots of water especially when working out. Enjoy your diet and don't make it a job. Make it something that it is apart of your life. Control your appetite. Don't snack between meals unless its fruits. When you serve yourself a plate take 30% of what you are eating and save it for lunch the next day. But don't over serve yourself because there would be no point in a diet now would it.
                                                          Get fit!!!!
      You don't need to go to the gym. Just take some time at least 30 minutes of everyday and exercise. You can do these things from the comfort of your own home or take a jog or walk outside. Most importantly if you're not sweating you're not working out. You must have the determination to do this. Picture one of those calender girls guys at car shops hang up and say I can look like her and better. While you get fit you also build up some confidence. On top of that you build endurance. You feel more energetic during the day than usual. When its time for the Love Making you tend to last longer without being tired. Sit ups and push ups are the key work outs you might want to focus on. The arms and stomach are where most of the fat goes to. So work it!!!!

                                                   Get Confident!!!!
      Confidence is the key element in it all. Confidence is the most important thing in a woman. Find every little thing that makes you special and keep your head up high. You are every woman (Whitney Houston). Listen to positive songs. Don't stay in bed or watch t v all day, get up. Don't let your negative thoughts bring you down and make you feel useless. Find solutions to your problems. A man loves a confident woman. Don't get conceded, men despise a stuck up woman.

The more you take care of yourself the better you will feel. The better you feel the better your relationship gets. Keep you Man and Keep him happy :)

Arguments!!!!!Fight Peacefully

]Ugggg! Arguments. They should be called verbal fights. They bring emotions up that have been accumilating to that very moment. There are many different levels of an argument. Depending on how serious or unimportant it is depends on how crazy the friction will be. Arguments may cause name calling or offensive fraises that just makes you want to go back and forth. Without realization, your love for your spouse is going down spiraling stairs of anger, dislike, or cant stand being in their presence for a bit. It is a tiring thing when you find yourself fighting with your spouse alot. But there is a solution and its kind of difficult when your anger is at almost max. Just remember your mind controls your emotions.
The key to a peaceful fight is patience. Keeping your voice down, understanding your spouses point of view first and giving your point of view after. Tell him your sorry for his anger but you were just trying to get your point across. Try to express yourself without adding any offensive fraises or offensive tone of voice. I know it can be hard but someone needs to take the first step in having a peaceful disagreement.
Find the problem and both figure out a solution that both can agree upon...... If you disagree with him dont be angry just explain why you disagree. If your a complainer STOP! The problem sometimes can be that your hubby doesn't feel your opinion or what ever you have to say is important because of so much nagging. If you keep a passive attitude and not allow the thing that makes you mad get to you, you can explain your point easilly with a positive tone and love.
INSULTS!!!!AHHH I DESPISE THOSE. Dont insult him back dont add wood to a fully flaming fire. If you dont like where the conversation is going end it with a maybe we should talk about this some other time Nothing else. If he insists listen but dont roll your eyes listen and think of something nice to say before you respond. REMINDER::::: PATIENCE If you really love your husband or boyfriend buildup patience.
Storming Out....The moment where he cant take it and walks out on you. Leaving you with your words in your mouth. When he leaves but you know he's leaving for a little while, don't chase him. Let him go, give him some air. Don't call him let him breath and think about things. Give yourself some time to think as well. But when he comes back if the argument was really not that big of a deal pretend like nothing happened. If it was later on bring it up with a "I dont want to argue but its bothering me and i would really appredciate if you can hear me out please. If he still doesn't want to hear it be patient and walk away 'ok no problem'. Even if you are burning inside dont let him see it that annoys them. As a couple, something that hurts you or bothers you needs to be fixed or there will be grudges. but the key is doing it at his pace.He is the leader in the dance floor, if the woman was leading on the dance floor you'd look masculine and he'd look feminine. Its like taking away his manhood.
Dont argue in public, its embarassing to the both of you, argue in closed doors. No one needs to know your business but your marriage counselor, coach or shrink. People like to always have soemthing juicy to spread, dont let you and your spouse's problems be their gossip of the day
All you are doing is bettering your communication with him and comunication is the most important thing to have in a marriage/ between a couple.

These are the only tips i can give for now. Hope they work well for you ladies. I know some of these suggestions are like lowering yourself but you cant look at it that way. You are training your husband to be a better listener in his time. You can't go against the current. God bless

How to keep your man and keep him happy.

Ladies,

We all have our needs as much as men. But in order to make them understand you, you need to give them a little. I know it might sound strange but it doesn't hurt. I recently noticed how listening to there problems and making suggestions helps them take stress off of them. To cut everything short I'll give you some steps that helped my man want to stay, and stay happy being with me.

1. If he did something nice for you, reward him with something nice in return and maybe some Lovin

2. If theres arguing involved and it escalates, don't complain. take deep breaths talk things out, understand why he's angry or explain to him why your angry in an unoffensive manner. If the argument is about him doing something wrong, just explain it in a way that he won't feel annoyed.

3. LISTEN. Don't bore him if you talk to much. Let him talk too. You'de be surprised of how well you'll get to know him.

4. You want some attention? some affection? and maybe him listening to you?

Even if he hasn't done nothing nice for you, do something nice for him. As we all know most of the time men think of sex. So why not be that freak in the bed. Get some lingerie. do something new in the bed.

Well ladies, I leave you with these 4 steps. Use them wisely. If you ever need any more tip just ask.